Success means different things to different people. No lie! The person sat next to you right now will probably have a completely different concept of what success means to them.
If you’ve had coaching with me before you’ll probably have worked on your Values. And if you were in a group coaching workshop then you’ll have seen that each person involved had a different set of values unique to them. Don’t forget that even if two people pick the same value it can still mean something completely different to each of them!
So what is the ‘official’ definition of success…
| success /səkˈsɛs/ |
noun: success; plural noun: successes
the accomplishment of an aim or purpose.
“the president had some success in restoring confidence”
Success is usually equated to results. And results can be wide-ranging from small to big. Results are also tangible in that you want to see a physical or mental outcome you are happy about. Failure has often been pitched as its polar opposite but we all know now that failure is part of the route to success and can be hugely insightful.
Success gives you confidence, and the more confidence you gain the more success you are likely to have. But success has to mean something important to you which is why creating goals (aligned to your overall Vision or Dream) gives you the right structure for achieving it. Creating a clearer path for yourself through goal setting gives you the forward momentum to keep on going despite setbacks. This in itself is another form of success and well worth giving yourself a pat on the back when you achieve the small successes as well as the big.
So let’s get back to what success means to different people…
“Too many people measure how successful they are by how much money they make or the people that they associate with,” he wrote on LinkedIn. “In my opinion, true success should be measured by how happy you are.” Sir Richard Branson
“Success is liking yourself, liking what you do, and liking how you do it.” Maya Angelou
“It is also nice to feel like you made a difference — inventing something or raising kids or helping people in need.” Bill Gates
“Success in life could be defined as the continued expansion of happiness and the progressive realisation of worthy goals.” from his book The Seven Spiritual Laws of Success. Deepak Chopra
Just giving these four examples shows how absolutely different each person’s definition of success is! Success is as far and wide-reaching as you want it to be, there are no set boundaries and no it should be this or that. Think about what your own vision of success can be. What makes you happy. What’s important to have in your life. What would give you ultimate satisfaction?
And don’t forget that changes happen in your life so your definition of success may also change. Which means your goals will change too as you adapt and grow. Remember life is one big learning curve!